The Spill Babes

Spillers it is finally September which means fall is just around the corner. Pumpkin spice lattes, warm sweaters, and snuggling by the fireplace are so close. Unfortunately, “cuffing” season is also approaching. Now there may be a few of you out there jumping for joy about this… and by a few I mean like a handful at most. Most of us dread this shit. Seeing everyone suddenly couple up before the holidays while we’re left wondering why the man we spent all of summer with hasn’t made it official. And honestly? That’s your sign. If he can’t commit after rooftop bars, beach days, and drunk “I love you” confessions, he’s not magically becoming boyfriend material just because the leaves are changing.

We’re all guilty of daydreaming about what cuffing season could look like with the man we’re “kind of a thing” with. Usually these daydreams never become reality, so why waste another holiday season crying over a man who’ll bake cookies for your family’s cookie exchange but won’t slap a girlfriend title on you? Yeah, no thanks.

That man has spent all of this time doing relationship things with you but hasn’t made it official? He hasn’t been calling you when he says he will? He hasn’t been planning dates for you? He’s decided he doesn’t want to put in any effort and that’s his loss.

It’s September 1st. We’ve got four full months left in 2025, and that is plenty of time to lock in and rewrite the year on our own terms. Imagine who you could be by December if you stopped pouring all that energy into a man who can’t even decide if he wants to claim you and instead invested it back into yourself. This is the season to upgrade mentally, emotionally, and physically. Not because some guy “might” notice, but because you deserve it. Journal more. Hit that 8am Pilates class. Take the solo trip you keep pushing off. Build a life that feels so good you stop waiting for someone else to give it meaning.

Spillers, I need you to promise me one thing this Monday. Never beg a man to love you. Instead, learn to love yourself in ways a man never could. Fill your own cup so much that the bare minimum doesn’t impress you. Build a life so good that being single feels like luxury and the only men who are allowed access into your life are the ones who add peace, joy, and effort.

The second you start chasing love without having a strong sense of self love, you forget the most important truth: you are already whole. A man doesn’t complete you; he complements you. Stop waiting for his validation to finally start going to the gym, to finally book that trip, to finally feel like you’re enough. Do it now, do it for YOU, and watch how fast the right people gravitate toward your energy.

This Monday, let it be the start of something new. It’s a new season and a chance to decide that you are worthy of the kind of love that doesn’t need to be asked for. You have the rest of 2025 ahead of you, so block his number, unfollow his Instagram, delete that sneaky link contact you swore you’d “keep around just in case,” and pour all of that wasted energy back into yourself. After all, you deserve to be treated well by everyone, including yourself.

Keep spilling babes, xx.